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Think on this…

Philippians 4:8 Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable-if anything is excellent or praiseworthy-think about such things.

This is the scripture that Clay Scroggins preached about at church this morning (you can listen here after Sunday). Both Trey and I felt very moved and blessed by the message as it’s something we’ve been struggling with lately. I’m sure many newly married couples can relate to the feeling that we just don’t have enough time in the day to get everything done and still have enough time to spend together. Both of our jobs have felt VERY busy lately and by the time we are both home (and I’m done working– which is usually a few hours after I get home) we have time to eat dinner, take showers and then we’re pretty much off to bed (we are certifiably old people now… it’s pitiful). Over the last few weeks we’ve both fallen into the trap of feeling really down about the stresses of work and life and letting exhaustion and stress take over our attitudes. There have been a number of days lately that I’ve spent my whole drive home from work scheming about what other career paths I could take that would be less demanding and stressful and frustrating as teaching can be at times. And then when Trey gets home we gripe to each other over our t.v. trays ahem…dinner table about how we should just quit our jobs and move to Alaska and “live off the fatta the land.” Well Wednesday night Trey called me on my bad attitude and we had a long talk about how our thoughts and attitudes pretty much dictate how our days go… If I start the school day with a positive and expectant attitude, committed to patiently loving each one of my students no matter how I am treated in return, then my day goes a million times better than when I spend the whole drive to work dreading certain classes and duties and piles of ungraded papers. In my head I know that my attitude drives my actions… but sometimes my heart gets discouraged and tired and just wants to give up.

So… you can imagine how much we both needed to hear Clay’s message this morning about focusing our thoughts on things that are true, noble, right, pure, lovely, admirable, excellent, and praiseworthy.

There is so much in my life that is true and right and lovely and praiseworthy… and yet so often all I think about are things like… how irritating this gas shortage has become, or how frustrating it is that the nature of my job means I will never have it all figured out and am never (nor ever will be) caught up, or how the laundry pile grows quicker than a teenage boy, etc. etc. But I’m lucky to have a car that runs and gets me to where I need to be, even if I have to wait in an hour long line with a half tank of gas. And my job is steady and rewarding and gives me vacations that allow me to refocus and regroup. And we have more clothes than we can ever actually wear (or that fit… dang that newlywed weight). My marriage is true, and right, and lovely. And my students are all (in certain moments…) excellent and praiseworthy. What would it be like if instead of getting irritated with lack of motivation, tardies, and immature comments… I praised my students for what they did well and right. I can’t imagine how different every aspect of my life would be if I really committed to only dwelling on thoughts that are pure, and lovely, and excellent. I’m well aware that this will be a lifelong battle, but I’m thankful for reminders that I have SO many true and right things in my life that I can think about.

Ask me next week how this newfound commitment to thinking only positive things goes… I’d challenge you to try it too… I truly believe it could change everything about our jobs and home lives and mental health. πŸ™‚


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Welcome to our life.

After many months of faithful blog stalking, I’ve decided to enter into this world and blog about my own experiences as a newlywed and new teacher. Why? Not sure– but if I can get sucked into random blogs and enjoy reading about people I have never met and never will meet, I figure someone out there will get a kick out of the “crazy” life Trey and I live.

We’ve been married for about a year and nine months… but there are many days when we sit down together after a long day apart and still can’t believe we are lucky enough to be going through this busy, stressful, and wonderful life together. I am in my second year of teaching high school English and love my job. It’s exhausting work that never ends– but I can’t really see myself doing anything else that makes me feel as useful and fulfilled. Trey is a service technician for his Dad’s electronics company and is working very hard to learn and understand the installation and service side of the business before he moves into more of a marketing/sales/management role (if all goes as planned… which it never does…). We both feel very blessed to have good jobs that we enjoy 90% of the time.

We are about to embark on an exciting and scary adventure of looking to purchase our first house… which we know absolutely nothing about. So I’m sure that will present many an interesting rant or freak out! But- life in Decatur, GA is sweet and simple for now. Most nights these days you’ll find me on the couch, in my sweatpants, either grading papers, reading, watching reality tv, or shamelessly begging for a foot rub. Those same nights you’ll find Trey at our laptop religiously pouring over fantasy football stats and espn fantasy videos, drafting his newest “hilarious” fantasy message board post, offering or denying fantasy trades, or rubbing my feet with one hand while “dominating” his fantasy league with the other. Nobody every accused us of being party animals… πŸ™‚ But we like it that way and wouldn’t trade it for the world.

Unfortunately my time has come to an end… Monday night football is starting and there is a stat tracker to be loaded… RIP quality time with the hubby πŸ™‚

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